Joe Staniszewski is sitting on his couch, dogs curled up next to him, with sadness in his eyes. Having worked as a registered nurse, he knows the importance of blood and the life-saving ability it has.
"I would love to give blood," the 28-year-old from Perth says. But he knows he can't.
Mr Staniszewski identifies as queer, and despite being in a monogamous relationship and practising safe sex, he's not able to donate blood.
Australia is one of a declining number of countries across the world that places restrictions on men who want to donate blood if they have sex with other men, based on a perceived risk of HIV transmission.
Restrictions were introduced in the 1980s when HIV/AIDS transmission was at its highest, and today the Australian Red Cross' Lifeblood organisation still classifies "oral or anal sex with another man, even ‘safer sex’ using a condom" in the last three months as "at risk sexual activity".
That's despite HIV rates declining over the past decade.
“It frustrates me that a blanket approach has been put on,” says event coordinator for the Perth Gay Social Club Ian Odlum.
“People like myself who are very safe and take our sexual health very seriously would be willing to give blood, but because that blanket rule is there, I’m not able to.”
“A heterosexual man that doesn’t practise safe sex could be more of a risk than a same-sex man who practices safe sex. It's discriminatory,” Mr Staniszewski says.
Restrictions easing around the world
Amid the COVID-19 pandemic and natural disasters including the NSW and Queensland floods, demand for local blood donors remains high.
The Australian Red Cross says more than 1.6 million donations are needed every year, and while there are around 500,000 active donors in the country, the need for blood is constant. New donors are always needed.
It's the same story globally, and in recent years several countries have made the decision to repeal donor restrictions impacting men who have sex with men (MSMs).
“It’s been a long time coming. The current approach was discriminatory and wrong,” Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau said in April as Canada became the 31st country to remove limits or restrictions on the basis of sexual identity on those wanting to donate.
This year alone, France, Greece, Lithuania and Austria have also removed their restrictions.
Some countries including Germany and the Netherlands have made the decision to allow those who are in safe, monogamous relationships to freely donate blood without a deferral period.
How do the restrictions work?
Australia is one of 44 countries that impose restrictions on men who have sex with men. Currently, if they would like to donate blood they have to wait at least three months after having the sexual contact.
Often referred to as a ‘deferral period’, Australia is one of 21 nations worldwide that enforces it. These periods can range from three months in Australia’s case, up to five years.
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The Australian Red Cross, too, maintains the rules are in place “to protect both the donor’s health and wellbeing as well as the recipient of the blood,” and denies it is discriminatory.
A spokesperson for the Federal Department of Health said: "The deferral policy has been independently assessed as not being discriminatory after consideration in several judicial and para-judicial forums – including the Victorian Civil and Administrative Tribunal, the Human Rights and Equal Opportunity Commission and the Tasmanian Anti-Discrimination Tribunal".
Australia has made some progress in its restrictions after lowering the waiting period from 12 to three months in January 2021.
HIV notifications reached a low of 633 in Australia in 2020, according to the Kirby Institute at the University of NSW. That’s a decline of 37 per cent since 2016. In gay and bisexual men, HIV diagnoses have declined by more than 44 per cent in the same period.
It’s estimated that 29,020 people, or 0.1 per cent of the Australian population, are living with HIV, and 91 per cent of those people are aware of their status and are receiving treatment.
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Paul Benson is a 44-year-old Perth resident and gay. He's convinced that any 'risk' associated with gay sex is misconstrued.
“I would donate blood if I could. The fact that I'm on social media, I'm constantly bombarded with requests from the Red Cross, asking for blood donations. There's not nearly enough people doing it.”
In today's world, he says, the rules restricting him make little sense.
Paul Benson, 44, says blood donation restrictions are a "relic".
Population versus individual risk
There is perhaps opportunity for change.
Australia currently uses a “population statistical risk approach”, which identifies risk factors across the population. But some countries such as the UK and Canada have decided to move towards an “individual risk assessment” which would identify donor eligibility based on the sexual activity of the individual, regardless of their sexual identity.
Terry Healy is the member for Southern River in the WA Legislative Assembly and a champion of blood donation in Australia. In 2016, then aged 34, he became the youngest ever Australian to donate blood 300 times and values the importance of voluntary donation.
“I understand Red Cross and the TGA had had the option to adopt an evidence-based approach to blood donation from gay and bisexual men for many years,” he says, “but have so far declined to take on that evidence-based approach”.
“Instead of screening donors for the gender of their sexual partner, we should screen them for the safety of their sexual activity,” he says.
“It does not matter whether a person is gay or straight. If a person engages in activity that puts them at high risk, they should not be allowed to donate. If a person is at low risk, they should be able to donate.”
In removing its restrictions, the Canadian government spent seven years and more than $5 million on research and scientific evidence that showed an individual risk approach not only would ensure the “safety of the blood supply”, but also put an end to “discriminatory practices”.
Many, including Mr Benson, are now calling for Australia to do the same.
"We're told that these restrictions Australia has are for everybody's safety. And yet, when these restrictions have been removed elsewhere, the sky hasn't fallen in."
In a statement provided to SBS News, a spokesperson from the Australian Red Cross Lifeblood program said: "We understand these rules exclude some groups from doing what others take for granted... We hear the hurt, frustration, and the anger and we understand the desire to help. We want that too".
"We know that gay and bisexual men in declared monogamous relationships are a low risk, but as a group they are still at a higher risk of exposure than people in heterosexual relationships ... This [three-month] wait time is also applied to heterosexual risks, including someone who has had sex with a new partner who has come from a country where HIV is prevalent. It is also applied to people who travel internationally to certain countries.
"We’re exploring whether it may be possible to further reduce the three-month waiting period for plasma donations."
World Blood Donor Day is marked on 14 June.
Charlie Mills is a journalism student based in Perth. This article is an extract from his master’s degree project at Curtin University.
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