'Sydney is paradise for LGBTIQ+ community,' say French-Australians as life in France is 'different'

Renowned for its romantic locales and amorous expression, France is surprisingly less friendly towards the gay community if migrants from there are to be believed. This is probably why they feel at home in Sydney, thousands of kilometres away from home.

WORLDPRIDE SYDNEY OPERA HOUSE

The Sydney Opera House lit up with colours of the Progress Pride flag to mark the start of Sydney World Pride and the Sydney Gay and Lesbian Mardi Gras festival on 17 February. Source: AAP / DEAN LEWINS/AAPIMAGE

highlights
  • Sydney provides sense of community to LGBTIQ+ cohort, say French-Australians
  • Mardi Gras is a 'colourful and powerful' way to seek equal rights: LGBTIQ+ migrants from France
  • LGBTIQ+ men have it easier than women despite the freedoms in Australia, says French gay woman
As World Pride wrapped up in Sydney – which became the global LGBTIQ+ capital from 17 February to 5 March – the city witnessed a historic moment.

For the first time, a prime minister marched alongside the LGBTIQ+ community at the Mardi Gras parade, testifying that Australia, where homosexuality was punishable by death in early colonial times, has come a long way.

Several surveys also indicate that Sydney is one of the most gay-friendly cities in the world.

The French LGBTIQ+ community particularly finds such scenes and facts comforting.
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Australian Prime Minister Anthony Albanese participates in the 45th annual Gay and Lesbian Mardi Gras parade in Sydney on 25 February. Source: AAP / STEVEN SAPHORE/AAPIMAGE
Barely four weeks after landing in Sydney, Mae is walking along the colourful stalls of the Mardi Gras Fair in Victoria Park.

 The difference between Sydney and her hometown, Paris, is stark.
It’s way more open.
MAE
“There are more bars and LGBTIQ+ places, and right now all over town, you can see rainbow flags everywhere, in front of every shop… It’s really not like that in France.

“In town too, you notice way more LGBTIQ+ people and you can feel they’re not being judged. For the LGBTIQ+ community, this city is like paradise”, she tells SBS French.

The open-mindedness, at first, scared Laurent.
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Laurent is a French migrant who has made Australia home. Credit: Supplied by Laurent
He moved to Sydney 15 years ago. Being used to hiding his sexuality when he was living in Paris, Laurent wasn’t expecting to be able to live his relationship so openly.
My boyfriend is Australian, and hence, used to this tolerance.
Laurent
“So, as soon as we moved here, he was holding my hand while walking in the street, or at the beach, we would even kiss.

“And at first, it really scared me because I would have never done that in Paris, outside of the Marais (the Paris gay neighborhood).

“But for my boyfriend, this was his culture and he knew it was safe.

"It took me some time to adjust but then I got really relaxed and it made me feel good because for the first time, people weren’t seeing me as a potential homosexual, but simply as a human being”, says Laurent.

As the look in other people’s eyes changed, Laurent changed as well.
Since I moved to Sydney, my lifestyle completely changed, as did the way I dress up and behave.
"I guess it helped me accept my homosexuality, my feminine side, which I was always repressing in Paris,” he adds.
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Francois now lives in Lismore. Credit: Supplied by Francois.
François, who’s been living in Australia for nearly four decades, feels exactly the same.

Raised in a conservative family from a blue-collar Parisian suburb, he left France at a very young age because there was no role model he could relate to.

It was first in London that he found a world where he felt like he was fitting in.
In my hometown, there was absolutely nothing gay.
Francois
"And on TV, you’d see only caricatures of gay people, like transvestites or drag queens – no one I could identify with.

“When I moved to London, it felt somehow more democratic.

"You had gay people from all walks of life who would gather in bars and clubs. I felt relieved because for the first time, I met gay people who were like me," Francois tells SBS French.

He lived in London for a few years and then moved to Los Angeles, where also he was able to fully embrace his homosexuality.

But in Sydney, where he arrived in the middle of the AIDS epidemic in 1986, he discovered a never-seen-before sense of community amongst homosexual people.

“In the US, there was no social security for LGBTIQ+ people. So, when someone would fall sick, they’d just die alone, which was horrible to witness.

"And when people would get AIDS and fall ill, they wouldn’t get cast away from the community.
But in Sydney, the gay community had a much stronger sense of solidarity.
“I thought it was beautiful, and it made want to be part of that community”, Francois adds.

Ben is from a different generation and never felt the stigma around homosexuality as strongly as François did.

However, when same-sex marriage was legalised in Australia in 2017, he felt immense joy.
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Ben and Craig (back right) enjoying the Mardi Gras parade in Sydney with friends. Credit: SUpplied by Ben
"A year earlier, I got married to Craig (Ben’s Australian partner) in France but it was very important for me that gay marriage becomes legal in Australia as well because it meant that our marriage would be recognised here too.

“On top of that, the fact that the (gay marriage) legalisation was approved via a plebiscite by a majority of all Australians, it shows how open-minded and tolerant they are”, he says.

It’s an important milestone for Caroline as well, who shares her life with an Australian woman she met in Paris.
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Caroline is a Frenchwoman and singer who now lives in Australia with her partner Michelle. Credit: Supplied by Caroline
She says that even before the plebiscite, gay couples were already officially recognised, which was enough for her to obtain a partner visa for Australia.

“In 2010, I applied to get a permanent resident visa. My partner Michelle told me not to worry as we were in a de facto relationship”.

"So, we gathered evidence of our relationship which had started in 2008, like my name on our utility bills, a gym membership etc, but I was still in disbelief," she says.
When I checked and got confirmation that de facto relationships, even gay relationships are recognised, it really blew my mind.
Caroline
Laurent has more mixed memories of the plebiscite, blaming then-prime minister Malcolm Turnbull for "not having the guts to legalise gay marriage directly in Parliament”.

"During the campaign prior to the vote, I felt like a half-citizen, and the rejection expressed by some felt like a punch in the face.

"Having to go via a referendum was like saying to us, ‘you’re not exactly normal people, so we’re going to ask everyone if you should have the same rights’. It hurt me really hard and I’m not sure if I’ve moved on yet”, he adds.

For Caroline and the others that SBS French spoke to, the grass is greener in Australia for LGBT people than in France.

But still, she thinks lesbians still have lower acceptability than gay men.
Gay men have it way easier than women. It can still be a handicap for women to come out.
"Take actress Rebel Wilson, for example. She was really popular and since she came out, she’s being harassed and trolled online," she weighs in on the gender gap related to homosexuality.

Which is probably why many people believe that even though a lot has been accomplished in terms of erasing the stigma around LGBTIQ+ people, Mardi Gras is not just about partying and celebrating.

They add that it is a "powerful and colourful" way to ask for equality for all around the world, as homosexuality still remains criminalised in 68 countries.

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Published 10 March 2023 4:10pm
Updated 30 June 2023 10:09am
By Gregory Plesse, Ruchika Talwar
Source: SBS

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